In “The Mountain is You,” Brianna Wiest compares life to a mountain and encourages readers to embrace challenges, embark on a journey of self-reflection, and practice perseverance in order to reach new heights. The mountain represents the challenges and obstacles we encounter throughout our lives and symbolizes the path we must overcome in order to grow.
The mountain is often less a challenge in front of us as it is a pattern within us, an unstable foundation that might not seem evident on the surface but is nonetheless shifting almost every part of our lives. Your mountain is the block between you and where you want to live. Facing it is also the only path to your freedom and becoming.
The mountain that stands in front of you is the calling of your life, your purpose for being here, and your path finally made clear. Self-sabotage is almost always at work. Self-sabotage comes from irrational fear.
To truly heal, you are going to have to change the way you think. You are going to have to become very conscious of negative and false beliefs and start shifting to a mindset that actually serves you.
Patterns indicative of self-sabotage:
- resistance
- perfectionism
- limited emotional processing skills
- justification
- disorganization
- attachment to what you don’t really want
- judging others
- pride
- downplaying
- being “busy”
- spending time with the wrong people
- worrying about irrational fears and least likely circumstances
How to tell if you’re in a self-sabotage cycle:
- You are more aware of what you don’t want than what you do.
- You spend more time trying to impress people who don’t like you than you spend with people who love you for who you are.
- You’re putting your head in the sand.
- You care more about convincing other people you’re okay than actually being okay.
- Your main priority in life is to be liked, even if that comes at the expense of being happy.
- You’re more afraid of your feelings than anything else.
- You’re blindly chasing goals without asking yourself why you want these things.
- You’re treating your coping mechanisms as the problem.
- You value your doubt more than your potential.
- You are trying to care about everything.
- You are waiting for someone else to open a door, offer approval, or hand you the life you have been waiting for.
- You don’t realize how far you’ve come.
The greatest act of self-love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.
Brianna Wiest
When you start to feel resistance, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way? What is this feeling trying to tell me about the action I am trying to take? Is there something I need to learn here? What do I need to do to honor my needs right now?
We are not held back in life because we are incapable of making change. We are held back because we don’t feel like making change, and so we don’t.
Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs, often because we do not believe we are capable of handling them.
Brianna Wiest
Intuitive vs. intrusive thoughts
“Arriving” often makes us hungrier for more. When we want something really badly, it is often because we have unrealistic expectations associated with it. We imagine it will change our lives in some formidable way, and often, that’s not the case.
What you do every single day accounts for the quality of your life and the degree of your success.
What would my most powerful self do today? Be aware of your weaknesses and be willing to be disliked. No matter what you do, others are going to judge you.
Assume that everyone, and everything, has something to teach you. Become comfortable with vulnerability.
Start developing your own principles. Your life purpose is the point at which your skills, interests, and the market intersect.
Figuring out what you want to do with your life: What, and who, is worth suffering for? If social media didn’t exist, what would you do with your life? What comes most naturally to you? What would your ideal daily routine look like? What do you want your legacy to be?
Get a plan. Plans fix problems. Humble yourself. Ask for help because you aren’t supposed to know everything. Learn how to feel better by processing complex emotions.
How to truly enjoy your life: Arrive into the present. Lean into the little joys when you find them. Learn something new as often as you can. See challenging times as opportunities for transformation.
Listen to your behaviors. Filter out the noise. Manage your discomfort by making small changes. Become the best version of yourself. Find your inner peace.
One day the mountain that was in front of you will be so far behind you, it will barely be visible in the distance. Who you become in learning to climb it will stay with you forever.
I look forward to reading, learning, and sharing more with you soon!
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